{"id":1763,"date":"2014-01-05T22:17:22","date_gmt":"2014-01-05T11:17:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ddixondotme.wordpress.com\/?p=1763"},"modified":"2014-01-05T22:17:22","modified_gmt":"2014-01-05T11:17:22","slug":"learning-about-narcissism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dixon.one\/?p=1763","title":{"rendered":"Learning about Narcissism."},"content":{"rendered":"

\"20140105-222344.jpg\"<\/a>A sizeable portion of this post has been taken from what I have read at other sites. I have changed little as the essence of what I have come to understand has helped me to embrace my understanding of a journey with a previous friend.<\/p>\n

And this testimonial concentrates on her narcissistic traits. I must point out that she has many good, positive traits which are not relevant to this post and are not discussed here. Therefore, the following passage puts a misleadingly negative light on her; however, I do want the following passage to be a useful illustration of what it is like to live with a narcissist.<\/p>\n

I thought that my friend had suddenly developed a split personality and that this new unsavoury personality had taken the place of the charming personality which she hitherto had. I didn’t realise at the time that what I was experiencing was her private persona when before then I had only seen the public persona. Another factor which made me think of a split personality was the ‘gaslighting’ whereby she would one day say something quite definite and then a few days later insist on having said no such thing. She seemed sincere and convincing and the only explanation I could think of was a split personality whereby one personality did not know what the other personality had said.<\/p>\n

There were some subtle signs that might have warned me about the problem. These signs are essentially the tip of a very big iceberg, but could help others to recognise a narcissist. These are:<\/p>\n

* A tendency to criticise immediate family members a lot, to the extent of making them look foolish or incompetent or thoughtless or inconsiderate, and a tendency to criticise work colleagues and friends.
\n* Gaslighting, or saying something, and then later strongly denying having said it OR, claiming to have said something earlier, qualifying it with something like “you obviously were not listening when I told you”
\n* Frequently wanting to modify other people’s plans.<\/p>\n

To be continued …<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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